What to Look for in a Sober Companion - Music City Interventions

What to Look for in a Sober Companion

Life in recovery requires a strong network of support that includes professional treatment counselors and people that you can turn to when you face a challenge. In addition to your professional treatment team, you’ll need to build relationships with people who understand what it’s like to live with addiction and navigate your way through early recovery. A sober companion is a less formal resource than a counselor, and knowing how to find the right one will help you succeed in your recovery journey.

What Is Sober Living?

Once you enter a treatment program, you’re instantly thrust into a sober lifestyle. Getting off drugs and alcohol allows you to regain control over your life and begin enjoying things that weren’t possible when you were using drugs or too hungover to make clear decisions. Sober living can look differently for people in recovery, but it usually involves choosing to live in an environment where drugs and alcohol aren’t allowed. In this type of living environment, everyone agrees to keep substances off of the property so that each person has the best chance to thrive in sobriety.

What Is a Sober Companion?

You’ll often hear people use the term sober coach and companion interchangeably, but there’s a difference between the two. Companions offer a less formal relationship than a coach, and they can help you in various ways. A companion’s primary goal is to provide discreet support that enables you to overcome temptations that will naturally arise as you begin to rebuild your life. 

They may help drive you to and from your appointments so that you aren’t tempted to use them along the way. They could also accompany you to a company party where you’re worried that alcohol might be present. To others, your companion will blend in like they’re a close friend, but they’ll be quietly supporting you so that you don’t fall back into your addiction.

What Sober Companion Qualifications Should You Look For?

Understanding what a sober companion is putting you in the proper position to start finding the person who will help guide you on your journey towards a healthier lifestyle. One of the essential sober companion qualifications is that they need to be firmly rooted in their sobriety. While a typical sponsor might only need to have a year of sobriety under their belt, a companion should have at least five years or more of success with overcoming their addiction. This enables them to give you support during your most profound times of need without falling prey to temptation themselves.

You might also look for a companion that meets these qualities:

  • Close to your age
  • A deep appreciation for sober living
  • Completed training on being a strong sober companion
  • Capable of blending into your new lifestyle
  • A strong rapport with you makes it possible to ask for their support

What Are the Benefits of Going to a Sober Living Home?

Leaving your first phase of treatment often leaves you vulnerable to new stressors that can trigger a relapse. In some cases, returning to your former living environment might not be an option if it involves triggers that could send you back into your old habits. When people ask what sober living is, they are often curious about whether moving to a new home with people who embrace sobriety might be an option. 

Going to a sober living home that supports your new lifestyle is vast, and you’ll find that living in a drug and alcohol-free environment makes it easier to gain the strength you need to stay sober. Entering a home where everyone is on the same page helps you start making new sober friends who all enjoy doing activities that support sobriety. Whether you’re cooking a meal, celebrating a birthday, or working on finding a job in recovery, you’ll find that having people by your side helps to make every life event more manageable and enjoyable.

How Do You Build a Strong Relationship With Your Sober Companion?

As with any relationship, you might need some time to get to know your new companion. You’ll also want to remember that your companion isn’t just like another friend. Sober companions still listen to your problems and make life better with their sense of humor, but they’ll also be constantly available to jump in if you start to stumble with staying sober. They’ll remind you of why you chose sobriety if you begin to talk about having a drink or using drugs this one time. 

They can also help you connect with helpful resources if you start to show signs of relapse, such as skipping meetings or struggling with a significant life change. You can foster a strong relationship by being willing to talk to your companion about what you’re thinking and feeling. Then, they will be able to provide you with non-judgmental assistance that helps you stay grounded in sobriety.

About Music City Interventions

Music City Interventions offers sober companion support that’s confidential and professional so that families and their loved ones can feel secure during their treatment for addiction and alcoholism. Our primary goal in drug and alcohol addiction treatment is to work with our clients using discretion and compassionate confrontation that provides the suffering addict with the best start on their recovery.