12-Step Programs: Finding a Good Sponsor - Music City Interventions

12-Step Programs: How to Find a Good Sponsor

Relapses are more common than you might think. Even after you complete addiction treatment and work through 12-step programs, you never know when temptation may rear its ugly head. Knowing how to find a sponsor helps you have a vital source of support to help you with your recovery journey.

What Is an AA Sponsor?

In its simplest form, an alcoholic sponsor is someone that accepts the role of being a mentor for someone newer in their recovery. They’re a recovering alcoholic who knows the 12-steps well enough to feel comfortable helping you work through them. They’re also willing to serve as a guide that you can call or talk to about sobriety challenges that you face and help you with relapse prevention.

What Does a Sponsor Do?

When people ask what an AA sponsor is, they often want to know exactly what they should expect one to do for their recovery. Asking your preferred person what they can do is a big part of finding a sponsor. For example, some prefer to make themselves available for phone calls at any time of the day or night. Others prefer to set up daily or weekly check-in visits. What you and your AA sponsor work out is between you two, but the main priority should always be to ensure that you have the support you need to stay on track with your recovery.

What Should You Look for In an Alcoholics Anonymous Sponsor?

One of the most beautiful things about 12-step programs is that they’re filled with people from various backgrounds. The most important thing to look for in an Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor is strength in sobriety. Ideally, a sponsor should have at least a year of sobriety under their belt, and they should be comfortable with 12-step programs. You’ll also want to find a sponsor that matches your personality and beliefs. However, you might want to keep in mind that having a sponsor from a different age group or cultural background can sometimes give you a perspective that you don’t already have in your life.

How Do You Find a Sponsor?

After you understand what a sponsor does, you’ll understand the importance of having one in your life. Here are several simple steps that you can take to find a good sponsor to add to your support network.

Explore 12-Step Programs That You Can Attend Regularly

As you might guess, sponsors tend to hang out at AA meetings. Going to meetings regularly gives you a better chance of getting to know everyone than attending them sporadically. You can even use your desire to find a sponsor for AA as motivation to attend those important meetings. Whether you go every day or weekly, this also gives sponsors a chance to know you.

Listen to What the Other Members Are Sharing

You might still find it hard to figure out how to find a sponsor at a busy meeting. If you feel overwhelmed, know that this is normal at first. Instead of spending your time stressing out about finding your sponsor, just sit back and listen. You’ll start to pick up on people’s personalities, backgrounds, and stories during personal testimonies and opportunities to mingle. Eventually, you’ll notice that someone sticks out. When you feel someone’s story resonates with you, you might have found the perfect sponsor.

Pray or Meditate About Finding a Sponsor for AA

Even once you find a potential sponsor, you might still need some time to verify that they’re the right person to guide you through your early sobriety. In your 12-step program, you’re encouraged to rely upon a higher power. Whether you choose to pray, meditate, or simply contemplate your decision, taking some time to fully explore what a potential sponsor can bring to your life helps you feel more confident about moving forward. This strategy also works well if no one immediately appears in your life. Setting your intentions on finding the proper Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor can help to reveal the right person in your meetings.

Ask Someone to Be Your Alcoholic Sponsor

The final step to choosing an AA sponsor is often the hardest. Asking someone for help tends to be difficult for many people, but you’ve got this. By the time you attend 12-step meetings, you’ve likely accepted the need for help several times. Sponsors feel honored to be asked to help someone with their recovery and view it as their opportunity to give back. You don’t even have to say anything overly thought out memorable. Let your prospective sponsor know that you’ve learned from things they’ve shared already and would like to talk more about your recovery. Most likely, they’ll be eager to be your sponsor or help you find one if they aren’t ready to take on the responsibility.

About Music City Interventions 

Music City Interventions provides confidential professional intervention services to people affected by addiction and their families. We serve people from Nashville and across the US. Our primary goal for alcohol and drug addiction treatment is to offer our clients discreet services that are effective for helping them to see the importance of recovery, starting with their initial intervention.